The picture (centre) radiates relaxed family togetherness. England star Dele Alli, only 22 years old and fresh from a career pinnacle, scoring for England against Sweden in the World Cup quarter-final, smiles shyly with his support team around him. These are the people he loves and trusts. Posted on Instagram by his model girlfriend Ruby Mae (pictured left with Alli), it shows Alan and Sally Hickford, a middle-class couple from Northamptonshire, and their 22-year-old son Harry with Dele. They’re all on the pitch in Russia, beaming with pride. They came with him – of course they did. They are his world, and he theirs. The family took him in when he was 13 years old after his mother Denise Alli (right) had ‘alcohol issues’ which caused him to miss practices. Pictured inset right is Dele’s father Kehinde, who he lived with for a period in Nigeria. In 2016, the player decided to drop the name Alli from his shirt.
The picture radiates relaxed family togetherness. Footballer Dele Alli, only 22 years old and fresh from a career pinnacle, scoring for England against Sweden in the World Cup quarter-final, smiles shyly with his support team around him.
These are the people he loves and trusts. Posted on Instagram by his model girlfriend, it shows Alan and Sally Hickford, a middle-class couple from Northamptonshire, and their 22-year-old son Harry.
They’re all on the pitch in Russia, beaming with pride. They came with him — of course they did. They are his world, and he theirs.
Dele (centre) poses with girlfriend Ruby Mae and ‘foster parents’ Alan (left) and Sally Hickford (second from right) together with their son Harry (right) at the Samara stadium on Saturday
The Tottenham star endured a ‘complicated’ upbringing in Milton Keynes before finding fame as a footballer
Two years ago, he took the decision to drop the ‘Alli’ surname from the back of his shirt, because he felt it didn’t reflect who he is. His shirt simply bears his first name, Dele.
He chooses not to talk about his family much, saying only that it is ‘complicated’.
But with the country cheering him on tomorrow, perhaps this is an apposite moment to reflect on the grit and character Dele has shown to become a sporting hero. And also on the family whose support and love have played no small part in his success.
So who are TEAM DELE — and how did his fractured family situation come about?
Denise, who already had two daughters by two other men, raised her family in a three bedroom council house in Bradwell, a rough part of Milton Keynes.
Seven years after Dele was born, she had another child by a fourth man. Again, the relationship failed.
In an interview in 2016, she spoke fondly about his early years, saying: ‘He was my little cling-on. He’d always say, ‘Kiss me’. ‘
England’s midfielder celebrates his second goal in a 2-0 win over Sweden at the weekend
But Dele’s life soon started to become — in his words — complicated.
At some point he went to live in Nigeria with his father.
His parents’ accounts differ. Denise has said it was when Dele was five, and he went for six months; Kenny has said Dele was nine, and lived with him two years.
By 11, Dele was back in Bradwell, kicking a football about in the street.
‘There was a car park where I used to go and play with my friends, using bikes for goalposts. I think you can see that in my game. I used to watch YouTube tricks and then try them out,’ he has said.
He joined the City Colts boys club in Milton Keynes, and later MK Dons, where his talent was spotted by Mike Dove, head of the youth system.
Dove said: ‘He had a tough upbringing; challenging. And those formative years were important for his resilience. They made him fear-free. Nothing worries him.’
Dele’s best friend at Radcliffe secondary school in Wolverton was builder’s son Harry Hickford. They bonded over their love of football and played in the same teams.
Denise Alli, 55, with a photo of her son at her Milton Keynes council home. She says the pair haven’t spoken in two years
Dele’s father Kehinde, who he lived with for a period in Nigeria. In 2016, the player decided to drop the name Alli from his shirt
But Dele’s mum Denise was struggling. By her own account in one published interview, alcohol abuse was to blame, although in a more recent interview she denies having had a drink problem.
One coach recalls that things at home were so chaotic, Dele often struggled to turn up for training.
By the time he was 13, a solution had been found: he moved in with Harry Hickford’s parents, Alan and Sue, in the middle-class suburb of Cosgrove, Northamptonshire, six miles from his mother.
The arrangement started when Dele began going for tea after training three days a week, then he started staying over. Soon he was spending five days a week, visiting home just once a month, or less.
Denise, now working as a cleaner, said it was a painful decision to let him go — but the right one.
‘I had to let him go to give him a better future. Emotionally it was heartbreaking, but it was the right thing to do.
‘It was my decision to let Dele live with another family. I knew it was the only way he could fulfil his dream of becoming a professional footballer. It was tough to give up my son — but it’s turned out to be his salvation.
‘All the kids Dele’s age were smoking, arguing and robbing. I was worried my son would be tempted by the hood life.’
Dele agrees, saying in an interview: ‘I got into the wrong crowd from an early age. Football was a great distraction from the path I was heading down.
‘I’m very lucky to have met people who helped me through the hardest of times and have helped me grow into the person I am today.’
He has not seen either of his parents since he signed for Tottenham, for £5 million, in 2015.
This week, Denise was again complaining about the rift between them, and talking about having watched the England match at home. Any attempts to see her son have been rebuffed, she said.
Growing up, Dele was surrounded by kids who were ‘smoking, arguing and robbing’, his mother claims. She let him leave Bradwell to help realise his potential as a footballer
Dele’s father has flown to the UK to try to see his son, but also without success. He said: ‘Not being able to see or speak to him hurts a lot.
‘Dele has apparently told his sister I was never there for him growing up, but I can’t understand that. He lived with me for years and I’ve always been there for him both emotionally and financially.’
Dele has some contact with his two half-sisters, Barbara and Becky. Sources indicate that he has been generous to his family financially but felt that he needed to cut the cord.
Instead he has forged ever-closer links with the Hickfords. Until recently he lived in the family home, a five-bedroom house in a rural setting outside Milton Keynes which is now worth £1,050,000. In 2015, when he scored his first international goal in a friendly against France at Wembley, the Hickfords took him to McDonalds for an ice cream.
Harry Hickford, whom Dele calls his ‘brother’, is now his manager and lives with him in a four bedroom £2.25 million new-build on a gated community in Hertfordshire.
Meanwhile, Alan is a director of Dele Alli Promotions Limited, set up to receive Dele’s earnings from sponsorship. It last filed accounts in August 2017, showing a company with more than £1 million in assets, leaping up from £247,000 the previous year.
Dele Alli owns 50 shares, and Alan and Sally Hickford have 25 each.
Alan is successful in his own right. He is the director of four companies.
Although there was no formal adoption, Dele regards the couple who took him in as his parents. Mark Robinson, manager of League One team MK Dons, where Dele started, said: ‘Alan and Sally are phenomenal. They have supported and guided Dele so well.’
He is now being linked with a move to Real Madrid, who are reportedly offering £50 million. It is said Spurs have responded by offering him a £100,000 a week.
Harry Hickford, Dele’s manager, stays with the player at his £2.25 million mansion at a gated community in Hertfordshire
Meanwhile, Dele’s tastes and hobbies are much like those of other young footballers. He loves Nando’s chicken and video games and drives the usual over-the-top blacked-out Bentley.
He also has the requisite model girlfriend, 23-year-old Manchester-based Ruby Mae.
And, like many other sportsmen, he is superstitious, still wearing the same shin pads he had as an 11-year-old, and always doing his right leg first, then his left.
MK Dons chairman Pete Winkelman said: ‘We are so proud of him. When you look at the hard life he had, and the strength and support he has found, I genuinely believe that without football on his doorstep he wouldn’t have been able to do what he has done. The credit belongs to Dele: he is the one who has taken the opportunity.’
Dele agrees. He said: ‘I’ve learned not to take anything for granted. I get to have football as a job but you have to fight for things in life.’
A fight he is winning — with a loving family cheering him on.